So often we shy from that which we truly wish to know.
Whether afraid of the answer, playing office or social politics, or in some cases behaving in a self-interested, manipulative way – we don’t say what we mean.
I once had a buddy that caught his girlfriend in a lie. She said she was studying, but instead went to a party.
Insult to injury, he found out through a photo of her with some guy sent to him by someone else.
Now at this point, he had a choice: Confront it head on or play shadow games.
Unfortunately, impetuous in his youth he chose shadow games.
Printed the image out, and asked her to lie to him with the photo in his pocket, “How was studying last night?”
Regardless of the act, he sullied his dignity by reducing himself to petty antics to “catch her”.
This is trick of ego from all angles.
Need to be righteously petty.
Need to be right.
Need for validation of the catching of the act.
But in doing so robs us of the high ground.
We are now down in the mud with the liars, because we ourselves pretend to be unaware knowing full well, making manipulators of all parties involved.
Work on asking the questions you truly want the answer to.
Say what you truly mean, don’t beat around the bush.
Not everything needs to be wordsmithed in the name of other people’s emotions and perceptions, especially when a slight has been experienced.
I would recommend some tact and decorum, but still when it comes down to it, being forthright and honest should trump all.
Stay Dangerous.
