“Most are so concerned with denying the existence of the wolf, they will walk straight into its jaws, disputing the warnings as lies, and then blame others for their misfortune.” – Unknown
One of the prevailing, and more dangerous, ideological practices within modern society is the ‘out of sight, out of mind’ approach to anything remotely resembling discomfort.
Danger doesn’t exist because they have yet to experience it.
Strength has no utility, because they have yet to need its function.
Violence is random, because they don’t understand escalation.
Truth of the matter is, like the universe, there is no obligation for things to be fair, make sense, or justified in order for them to exist.
Waiting until the moment arrives to know how to handle it, is the leading cause of anxiety and doubt.
Even in clinical psychology, there are countless anecdotes proving explicitly that avoidance is a multiplier of problems, not a solver.
The solution always prescribed is voluntary exposure to that which we fear or makes us uncomfortable.
So why have we taken avoidance as a society to all of our problems?
Why have we become obsessed with wrapping each other in bubble wrap, insulating ourselves from danger, instead of developing the tools to face them head on?
Part of it is justified, that feeling of being so inconsequential there isn’t any point. While it holds some merit, and I can see why many think this way, this is saying ‘I quit’ well before even attempting.
Most of the time it is just fear. Things are too horrible or scary to think about, so we just don’t. Much like trauma victims with dissociative disorders, we as a society have accepted that pretending it doesn’t matter, actually means it doesn’t matter. Which is far from a functional or practical position to hold. It always boils to the surface eventually.
I would also say that a good portion of the time, it is just too damn hard. Being uncomfortable, sitting with a problem, or worse, experiencing the evils in the world can feel insurmountable in the moment. Many feel if they ignore it, then it gets easier, but the reality is that it just exacerbates the issue, pushing it down the road, picking up speed and mass the longer you ignore it.
To weather the storms, you need to be skilled and hardened through experience. This cannot take place if you only sail through calmer waters.
If you are going through hell and you are avoiding it, do this right now:
1. Write down your problems, our demons cannot live on paper.
2. Identify which ones need to be solved first.
3. Take the top 3 items and focus on what you can do right now to solve it, and go do those things.
Stop making excuses.
Do the hard stuff now, so that it doesn’t get worse later.
STAY DANGEROUS.